Posing for Emotionally Rich Images

To create emotionally rich images, start by studying the ins and outs (that’s what she said) of emotion. You need to know what an emotion feels like before you can know what it looks like. Also, thanks for being here! It’s awesome that you want to push your work forward and I’m flattered that you came here to do it.

Emotional Posing Tips / Ben Sasso
First, a little distinction in how I plan emotion in editorial work vs. my couples sessions:

EDITORIAL WORK – Before I show up on set for an editorial shoot, I already know the emotion I want to bring out in the images because I know which mood will best convey that specific shoot’s concept.

COUPLE SESSIONS – I let the love-butts steer the mood for couple’s sessions because every couple is different I want the couple to end up with images that feel like them. I’m going to go meta and quote myself from an interview about this (I know it’s weird, just go with it):

“You know that whole thing about humans being infinitely complex with oceans of individuality swirling inside of them? We all laugh at different things. Some of us laugh more, some less. Some of us cry at videos of kittens, some of us find peace in nature, etc. The point here is simple:
Don’t put anyone in a box.

It’s dangerous to show up on set with an inflexible view of what you want to create. If you’re trying to direct a couple into delicate, intimate poses but they only sit there for a few seconds before they start making fart noises and tickling each other, you might need to adapt. Let your couple steer the mood of the shoot. Otherwise, you’ll end up with photos that feel forced to you and foreign to them. If they start getting goofy, play into it. If they’re quiet and calm, let them sink further into that.
Whatever fire they light, throw some wood on it.”

– Ben Sasso (Cat Lady. Photographer.)

Posing tips for Couples / Ben Sasso


Good news! We’re humans and we’ve each been meticulously collecting data on what emotions feel like since we were born. Let’s look inward for a bit to translate what those emotions feel like into what they look like.

Let’s take a mind journey into the land of imagination. Imagine yourself in a room with nothing but a simple, wooden chair. You there? Good. Now I’ll tell you what you’re feeling, and I want you to imagine how each feeling would change the way you sit in the chair (I’ll include my answers in gray).

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You’re cozy as butts. I’m talking steaming-hot-chocolate-and-wool-socks kind of cozy.
Sitting curled up under a warm blanket. Feet tucked in, arms wrapped up, muscles relaxed.

You’re relaxed and it’s summertime. Windows are open and a hot breeze is blowing through.
Loose and lounging. Leaning way back in the chair, feet out, legs open, muscles loose, and head leaning back.

You’re ecstatic! You just found out that Trump’s presidency was just a bad dream!
Jumping up and down, arm’s joyfully flailing about, thanking whatever lord there is that the movement towards equality wasn’t actually set back 50 years!

You’re distraught because you read one of my posts discussing free will and you think your life might just be a predetermined, unavoidable string of cause-and-effect events.
Feet planted, hunched forward with your elbows resting on your knees and your head sunk into the palms of your hands.

You’re mad because you thought this post was going to be lighthearted but it made you question your existence.
Sitting up straight, arms crossed over your chest, muscles tense, jaw clenched, and brows furrowed.

And finally, this exercise has left you confused about everything, and you feel a sudden need to talk to a friend.
Laying face up on the floor, chair tipped over in the corner, limbs all straight out, and a lonely drop of sadness rolling down your cheek.

Okay. That got weird. Hopefully some of you are still with me. The moral of the story here is that figuring out what an emotion looks like is simple. If humans have anything in common, it’s that we all feel. Use that. Picture the chair (or do what I do, and act it out in real life), and run through how you would interact with the chair while feeling whichever emotion you want to convey. Below is a quick little video that illustrates the point:

The “Alone with a Chair” exercise plays out in a practical sense for me the most often during the planning stages. When I plan editorial shoots, one of the first things I do is pour words into my journal. I write down the ideas I want to convey, the symbolism I want to reference, and the mood I want to bring out to best represent the idea. From there, I start a shot list and that’s when the “Alone with a Chair” exercise happens. I’ll pull up a seat (sometimes in real life, sometimes in my head), get into character, and interact with the chair. That helps me understand how I can best represent that mood through body language and it helps me build a shot list with a more solid base of emotion behind it.

Couples posing tips / Ben Sasso

If you shoot couples without a planned mood ahead of time, practicing this will help you understand how to emphasize whichever mood their particular style of love brings to the table. As an example; Imagine you’re shooting in a hip little summer home in Joshua Tree with a couple who has a laid back, calm kind of love. Once you know the vibe you’re after, have them take little break so you can think about what type of body language would bring that out even more (And yes it’s 100% okay to have them take a break mid-shoot for you to think and develop your ideas. Art requires thought.). To me, that sounds like a perfect opportunity for a lounging summer vibe so if I imagined myself in the chair, I’d be sitting with all of my muscles relaxed, my limbs loose and open, and leaning back like I’ve been sinking into that chair (and, if I was part of the couple, into each other) for hours. Once I started shooting again, I’d direct them into more relaxed, lounging poses where they’re resting deeply into each other. Bingo!

Posing Tips for Models


The two over-arching moods that I shoot most frequently are Energetic, and Intimate. Obviously, each of these have a ton of depth and could encompass a universe of nuanced emotions, but if I boil it down into something simple, those are the two that most of my shoots fall under so I’ll use those examples to show how the emotions you want in your image can translate into your posing and directing!

I like to think of the differences in posing for energetic mood and an intimate mood as the differences between two major personality traits: Extroversion and Introversion


Energy is the extrovert of moods. That sentence will probably only ever make sense in the context of this article. To convey an energetic mood (ecstatic, frustrated, in love, or something else) through posing, I direct my subjects into exaggerated movements with a focus on things going outward (limbs flying out, hair spinning, etc). This is why I call it the extrovert. It’s wants to get out. It wants to be seen. It wants to be noticed.

Posing Cues for Couples / Ben Sasso

Focus on going big and bold. If you shoot a few images of someone running, it might convey some energy, but if you shoot someone taking enormous, leaping strides, you’ll have an image that’ll give your viewer that extra little rush. Instead of shooting a couple doing a goofy little dance, shoot them while they’re running around flailing. That exaggeration is what turns an energetic image an ENERGETIC IMAGE. As a side note, keep in mind that you can use your gear choice to draw out this mood even more. Using a wider lens can exaggerate the length of limbs, making a small stride look like a leap. More about that here: My Gear & How I Use it to Create Emotion

Posing Cues for Models / Ben Sasso

If you show up to a couple session and immediately ask your couple to flail around like maniacs, you’re the maniac. Work into it. One you start shooting and notice that they’re a more energetic, shake-your-buttcheeks kind of couple, then you can start picking up the pace a bit so they can get into the mood gradually. Once they do, they’ll commit more than they would have if they stepped out of the car and were expected to perform on cue.

Match the energy you want to see. Don’t worry, you can do this and be an introvert (I’m proof of that). Nothing would be lamer than you quietly, and calmly requesting that your couple flails around like maniacs. This doesn’t mean that you need to be a maniac too, but you should bring up your energy a bit, speak with confidence, and be be open to being part of their good time. If you commit, they commit. If you don’t, you’re lame.



If energetic images are extroverts, intimate images are cat ladies. I am one with the intimate images.

Posing Tips for Couples / Ben Sasso

This is my comfort zone because I live in it. I’m quiet as heck. In fact, when I filmed Katie and Joe’s sessions (Session 1, Session 2) for my Posing & Directing class, there was so much footage without audio (other than the music we were playing) that I ended up narrating the quiet parts to explain what was happening in my head while shooting. It’s how I’ve always shot couples sessions (directing them when I need to and staying quiet when I can) and that’s a huge reason that my style often leans toward the intimate. I let the couple interact with each other instead of with me.

Couple Session Posing Tips / Ben Sasso

Much like a conversation between two introverts (does that exist?), intimate moments are quiet, and something that you have to be welcomed into. In stark contrast to the energetic posing, intimate posing almost doesn’t want to be seen. Smiles are subtle. Movements are more delicate. Limbs and hands get buried and tangled in each other instead of reaching outward. Intimate moments tend to be calm, peaceful, and vulnerable, so our posing and shooting style should match that.

Intimate posing in images can come from two sources: Our direction, or their intimacy. If it comes from our direction, it will likely be an image that has a more intimate look to it because we directed their body language into something that looks more intimate. If it comes from their intimacy, it’s because we created a space where they feel comfortable being vulnerable and then we invited them to open up. As an introvert (I once surprised someone by responding when they asked me a question) I often find that my most intimate moments happen when talking with someone I’m close to so I like to bring that into my couple sessions by getting the two of them talking. Below is one of my favorite cues from my Posing and Directing class in the Fostering Intimacy section:

Posing Tips for Couples / Ben Sasso


If you’re an introvert like me, you might already know how powerful a simple question can be. Talking tires me out. It drains me and makes me feel overwhelmed. The good news, I’ve become awesome at asking questions. I love that I can be in a meaningful and long conversation without ever saying more than a few sentences. This is the epitome of how I shoot. I give a prompt for the couple to respond to, and then I sit back while things unfold. It’s fun, it’s easy, and it’s the perfect shooting style for a quieter personality like me.

I have a few questions that I love asking couples to prompt those little moment’s of intimacy. Sometimes, you’ll end up with a pretty general answer but, more often than not, you’ll end up watching something beautiful unfold as they share things with each other that may have previously went unsaid. Below are some of the questions I’ll ask during sessions when the moment’s right:

• When were you most proud of him/her?

• What are you most excited about in the next 10 years?

• How has he/she changed you?

• When was the last time you cried together?

• Why is he/she so important to you?

• When are you two at your best?

Some of these questions aren’t ones that people think about often so they might not have an immediate answer. I usually ask one of them the question and then ask them to think about their answer as I keep shooting for a bit. After a little while, I’ll have them share their answer with each other (I let them know that I don’t need to hear the answer).”

Posing Cues for Couples Sessions / Ben Sasso


I’m including this last little tip here because I think any article about posing is lacking without it. Play Music! If I only had room in my brain for one bit of information about posing, it would be this. I use this little bluetooth speaker on my shoots and play one of my two playlists (below):

My General Shoot Playlist
My Chill Shoot Playlist

Posing Tips for Test Shoots / Ben Sasso

If you’re the type of person who loves lists, here are four reasons why music is the shiz.

1. Bring out a Mood
If I’m expecting a model or a couple to give me an energetic vibe, why not flood the room with some FUGGIN BEATS? On the other side of the spectrum, if I’m trying to hit a quieter, more serene mood it may be helpful to play something soft and soothing so they can sink into that feeling.

2. Kill the Awkward
Silence can be awkward. Don’t get me wrong, one of my favorite traits in a person is being able to be quiet with someone without feeling like they have to say something, but the truth is that not everyone feels the same. Music fills that gap. Aside from that, if you ask them to laugh out loud, the music drowns out the laugh that they might think sounds awkward. It even allows your couple to talk to each other and be cute without the fear of you hearing it. It just flat out brings out the natural in people.

3. My Creativity
Playing music is as much for me as it is for them. Listening to the music I love is when I feel the most myself. When I feel like myself, I feel more creative. When I feel creative, stronger work happens.

4. Fart Silencer
Music silences farts.

Okay. That’s it friends. You made it all the way to the end! For your troubles I’ll reward you with this and the moral of today’s story: Become a student of the emotions you want in your images. Study them. Feel them. Practice them. Sit alone in a chair with them. If you want to see it with your eyeballs, feel it with your heartballs.

If you want to dig way farther in: Posing & Directing.
It doesn’t not not suck.


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  1. Reply

    you’re so good at writing helpful articles! dang boy!

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    I wis tO print this text so i can read it many times, is it poss?

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    You. You with the gorgeous images and the generosity to share these Hugely helpful articles. You with the little snub at #45 to let Me know im not alone when i lay in bed and worry that Our worLd has spiraled so far down in the last year that we cant possibly survive another thRee years with him as president. You with the sharing when So many are competitive. You.

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    This is so awesome and helpful ben! thank you for writing this!!

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    Holy smokes. First off, thank you for always being so inSpiring/Encouraging/straightforwArd. And second, thanks for making me cry. Because im laughing so hard. #fartsilencer #trumpsucks #heckyeAh

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    Hi Ben!

    It is always such EXCITEMENT to read your posts. tHANK YOU FOR ALL THE TIPS GIVING ABOVE, As well as for beeing a great inspiration! AND…. FOR THE REWARD too!!! sUCH A FUN REWARD i WOULD SAY 😀

  7. Reply

    Love all of this. Always helpful to read your articles.

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    This is the most use articl I have ever rEaD from tHe internet about phOtography!! Thank you so much for sharIng your thoughts

  9. Reply

    As always, great advice and so ridiculously helpful!!

  10. Reply

    This was SO helpful! Thank you for taking the time to write this and help out so many photographers <3

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    Thank you for sharing this!

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    Amazing article ben! I love these tips and have taken away a lot. Thank you so much.

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    awesome blog post, thanks ben!

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    Ben –

    This article is a w e s o m e! Thank you for constantly inspiring through stunning imagery and thoughtful, yet playful, insights.

    Appreciate you!

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    So helpful, as always! Great post!

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    Thank you so much for putting time into sharing such great tips.
    as always, your articles are incredibly useful and i can’t find anyone else as generous and insightful as you.
    Thank you!!

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    Hey! Thanks for all your awesome info. Useful as always 🙂

    As far as couples go – how much do you try to find out about their dynamic before hand? Do you send out a little questionnaire/Chat with them on the phone? Or do you kind of show up and gauge if their dynamic is extroverted vs introverted?

    • Thanks Savannah! Before we start shooting, I just hang out with couples for about 20-30 minutes to get a bit more comfortable with each other. During that time I’ll ask them a few questions about how they met, etc and can usually gauge it pretty well during that time but if not, the first few minutes of shooting will reveal it!

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    This was amazing <3 Wow. I appreciate your humbling expertise on the subject of posing. I can't even begin to tell you how much i connect with this!

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    This was everything. Thank you so much fOr being so open. Love the part about playing muSic! Thank you thank you.

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    This is such a great article thank you for sharing I will definitely be trying this out in my next photo session.

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    Hi, Ben! I love your articles. I find them really helpful. Being an introvert isn’t easy. I usually find myself anxious during shoots because I feel like my energy isn’t enough to make everyone comfortable. But I’m learning and now hopeful.

    Thank you again for sharing your knowledge and art! You have so much soul in you. Sending you love and light!

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    Brilliant. As always Mr Sasso 😉

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    So good, can’t believe your generosity with both knowledge and inspiration!

    All the best,


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    As usual, i love your work. Keep on going !

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    Holy crap ben, this is absolutely golden info! I’ve used the posing class so much since buying it a while back, but this just adds on so much more awesome info! Thanks so much!

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    I have been reading your articles for a long time, never comment here before but i have to say that i dont just admired your work but the dedication to put together such a helful and fun to read piece its just amazing. Thanks!. salud from Barcelona!

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    Ok, I felt alot smarter after reading your article but then I watched the prize at the end and now feel just a whole lot DUMBER.

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    I’m always so excited when i find ben in my inbox. so good, as always.

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    THank you so much for this super useful information, I feel like i’m gonna nail my next shoot already

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    Hey Ben, I just bought my first DSLR last March and found you on Instagram. Euphoric as I was, I bought your presets with a friend.
    In the last few days, I have absorbed all informations of your site. I’m totally excited and look forward to experimenting as soon as my job allows it.
    Thank you very much for sharing your knowledge and ideas. It will help me a lot and take me forward, I’m sure. Thanks Ben! Greetings from Germany, René

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    Thanks so much for sharing your knowledge with us, Ben. I always learn so much from you and Got a good laugh, toO (fart silencer, FTW)!

  32. Reply

    what an amazing read. You really know how to get the readers attention and not be boring! thank you thank you thankkkk you!

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    You are LITERALLY one of the greatest people on tHE interwebs.

  34. Reply

    Thanks for yet another helpful and actually fun to read post! You da bomb.

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    wow. this is pure gold.

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    Take my money… Super grateful for this. beyond words and texts. thank you

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    I have to say this article is pure gold.

    I have been struggling so hard to understand how to bring more emotion into my images because Creating something that’s just a pretty picture is SO far from satisfying. But, this is what I’ve been needing. You’re a fantastic educator and I really admire you as an artist and a teacher. You’re great.


    P.S. I like your weird stuff. It’s great

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    oh yes! Super helpful article again! thank you so much for this! 🙂

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    Thanks for always sharing your knowledge!

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    This is so helpful! Thank you so much for caring about others and doing what you can to teach other photographers the sweet skills you’ve learned.

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    Ben. I just so APPRECIATE your OPENNESS and willingness to teach and share your tips and tricks. So helpful. Also Fart Silencer Music silences farts….I’m dying. so. funny!

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    I admire how true to yourself you are. Thanks for YOUR openEss and honerty

  43. Reply

    Great blog post, rich of useful information and great tips.
    You have to feel the image…
    Fell the light, composition, and mood..

  44. Reply

    incredibly helpful, Ben. thank you!

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    thanks for the info and sweet playlists!

  46. Reply

    Hi! I’m first time here and agree with other – it’s so clear and helpful article! I’ll be back here for sure.

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    Thanks for the wealth of knowledge – can’t wait to start implementing these great tips!

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    I appreciate that you make me feel like I have a photography community when sometimes it feels so lonely being a freelancer.

  49. Reply

    I absolutely adore every single piece that you create. You are SO insanely talented. Thank you for sharing it with us

  50. Reply

    Thanks for this – I bookmarked it months ago, but only just returned to read it. Great advice for getting the most out of your shoots.

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    Okay so we all know how talented you are, and aso with your words, this was incredibly helpful! I can’t wait to put what i’ve learned to use.

    Side note. You and that youtube vid link….whyyyyy? LOl I laughed too hard

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    This has been the most useful articles about this topic I’ve read! I’ve always felt that pros keep these things to themselves, and I understand that to some point and I should find my own ways…But reading something like this really opens a world for newbies, especially the thought process behind it, feelings, not poses (part I like the most about photography, like most of us). So, thank you Ben Sasso, I like what you do, I appreciate your time that went into this article very much, and I promise I try to use it well, in my own way.
    Stay awesome!

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    Everytime i read One of your blogs i always think damn he’s done it aGain. This blog is genius and pushes me to want to be more And understand my couples more!

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    thanks, Ben! really enjoyed reading this article… your humor is the best. your always inspiring.

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    So many thank yous for this article. Starting it with a “that’s what she said” joke and ending with heartballs was a killer move! Your writing is as amazing as your photos. #yayforcatladies

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    Thank you for this! It’s very helpful <3

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    For your troubles I’ll reward you with “this”

    your -this- does not open anything. 🙁

  58. Reply

    Your aRtisTry speaks so fuckin loud to my soul and i am so grateful you exist! Your art and words come as a divine messenger and boost my creative energy and Youve got me absolutely pumped for my next shoot in a couple weeks! Heck yeah!

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    Ookkkaaaty so this is a nIce surprise! I love tHis and that you shared your KNOWLEDGE! ❤️❤️

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    not only are you such a good writer and photographer, you are so hilarious!! tHANKS FOR BOTH THE ADVICE AND THE LAUGHS BEN!

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    Little mishap with the caps lock. it was a yell-worthy article, but i wasn’t trying to yell! 🙂

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    Great peace of content. Ben tell me please what are you doing with “wooden Couples”
    who ask you at the start what to do with each other, what pose to take. Do you have special ice breakers?

  64. Reply

    This is such great info, thank you so much for sharing your knowledge!

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    THANK YOU! I’ve really noticed my lack of true emotions in photos and I’ve been searching cracks and crevices for education on emotional posing and direction over these last few months. This is the bomb dot com!

  67. Reply

    Great photos and tips. I like pictures like that 🙂

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